Every day I hear new stories about women being flexible with their boundaries and subsequently exploited. Typically, I won’t blame women because we have been trained since birth to remove or loosen our boundaries for this thing called love. Television and movies communicate daily, sacrifice every part of yourself for…

Today we are discussing my favorite subject. Decentering Men A couple of years ago I wrote a book Called Decentering Men and then an article Decentering Men: Why you should let go of men. I wrote it because I was tired of making every decision with a man in my…

As heard on Ep. 23 of Charlie’s Toolbox Podcasts ‎Charlie's Toolbox: Ep. 23 How To Stop Performing in Relationships (Romantic and Non-Romantic) on… ‎In this episode, I investigate why you perform in relationships (romantic and non-romantic). I explore how that…podcasts.apple.com Introduction So, some updates…. I uploaded a new episode on my Patreon about what I learned about communication from my parents. Unfortunately, they weren’t the best communicators and life forced me to unlearn a lot of lessons. I love this…

find the latest Stop Worrying! It’s just a date. Welcome back to CTB. This week we are going to discuss dating. So, there was a tweet floating around on Twitter of a screenshot of a conversation. The conversation was between a woman and her prospect. The guy sent a message asking if she…

Some parents are shit. They are insecure, abused, and desire power and they use their children as vessels for their unhealed trauma. Parents project they attack, and the result is a child whose inner voice is vile and putrid. Their unhealed pain leaves a mark on their children, and they…

We’ve been hurt before, but as women, we are told it is our fault. So, we analyze every part of the relationship looking for the places where we went wrong. We go over the relationship. We search for the red flags and signs that we missed. We hyper-obsess over the…

Over the past year, I’ve been enamored by people who exist without requiring anyone’s approval. I looked at Issa Rae who though self-proclaimed awkward levied her awkwardness into her TV show, acting career, and production company Hoorae. Jennifer Lewis who at 19 grabbed a woman assisting her in an audition…

I watched part 3 of the Real Housewives of Potomac Reunion, I am late! I saw Gizelle on my screen again. I saw the physical weight of her anger on her face. Her disgust at Monique and her anger at herself consumed her. Unfortunately, that type of hate is dragging…

If you know my work, you know that I condone anger and revenge. I know a lot of people are surprised by this, but I think there is a place for it, and the place for it is in the hands of the systematically oppressed. For the systematically oppressed, we…